Apr 29, 2022
Are you thriving in your mother-daughter relationships? Today's episode shares how to heal and create blessings from imperfect relationships between moms and daughters.
Our guests, Dr. Helen McIntosh and Blythe Daniel, offer the keys to healthy mother-daughter relationships. Blythe Daniel is a literary agent and author, whose articles have appeared in various magazines. She and McIntosh have written I Love You, Mom! and Mended: Restoring the Hearts of Mothers and Daughters.
Dr. Helen McIntosh (EdD, Counseling Psychology) is a counselor, speaker, educator, and author of Messages to Myself and Eric, Jose & The Peace Rug®. Her work has appeared in Guideposts, ParentLife, and HomeLife magazines.
Helen and Blythe discuss share how their books offer discussion starters and a framework of words to help mend and improve strained relationships between moms and daughters. Daniel explores the importance of forgiveness and reconciliation.
We discuss the ways to cultivate healthy parent-child relationships when kids or parents have been adopted. Dr. McIntosh shares the importance of mother-daughter relationships as a legacy of love for ongoing generations.
Blythe and Dr. McIntosh emphasize the importance of checking in regularly with your mom or daughter to determine how you are doing in the relationship. Helen notes the importance of asking permission to give feedback.
Blythe and Helen offer tips on setting healthy boundaries in mother-child relationships. Dr. McIntosh shares her term, "over-love," and notes how we can avoid suffocating one another in our relationships. Helen describes her process of learning to let go of Blythe when she went off to college.
How to say "no" and "yes" appropriately by setting healthy boundaries in our relationships is discussed. Dr. McIntosh explains that proper boundaries help us avoid blaming others for our issues.
We discuss the importance of clear communication. Daniel emphasizes how good relationships require intentionality and work. Helen highlights Matthew 7 and the need to remain faithful in tending to our own responsibility in the relationship rather than only focusing on what the other person should do or not do.
Dr. McIntosh emphasizes the power of praying blessings over those who wounded us.
We also explore the rejuvenating and bonding power of spending time in fun activities together. Blythe and Dr. McIntosh recommend finding time to relax, laugh, and play together in our adult and parenting relationships.